By Maria Chiorando For Mailonline07:38 BST 19 Jul 2022 , updated 08:43 BST 19 Jul 2022
- Chartered Psychologist Dr. Lalitaa Suglani is based in Birmingham
- She creates content about mental health topics for her following on Instagram
- In a recent post, she discussed seven things that can kill your relationship
- Among them are not apologising, and not having a life outside the pairing
A psychologist has revealed seven things that can kill a relationship, from refusing to take accountability, to ignoring your partner’s trauma.
In her post, she explained that relationships take ‘effort from both sides and that looks different for each person’.
Dr Lalitaa added that relationships are a ‘work in progress’ and ‘great relationships’ are great because ‘both people care enough about the other person to make it work’.
‘Just like the relationship with self the relationship we hold with others is always work in progress,’ she wrote.
‘No relationship is perfect. It takes effort from both sides and that looks different for each person based on past experiences and your love language. Relationships are work in progress.
Acoording to Dr. Lalitaa Suglani, 7 things that can kill relationships are:
1. Being indirect about your wants and needs.
2. Forcing the other person to change the way you want them to be.
3. Not making an effort to understand your partner’s perspective.
4. Disengaging during disagreement instead of having ‘difficult’ conversations and/or using disrespectful language.
5. Not apologising or taking accountability.
6. Not having a life away from the relationship, such as hobbies, meeting with friends.
7. Ignoring your partner’s trauma, triggers, or past experiences.
Dr. Lalitaa noted that, ‘in your relationship as you go through experiences your relationship will go through transitions and will evolve – after-all it takes two to tango.’